Being at Cause
Getting the Results You Want
Have you ever noticed how some people just make a decision and it happens? While others, never seem to reach the outcome they desire?
What is the difference between the two?
Is it simply mindset? Or do they have a secret weapon?
Changing your reasons to results
There are ways in which we view the world that significantly impact on our ability to achieve our outcomes.
The things that we believe to be true about ourselves, and about others, will also significantly impact how we see the world and how we behave in the world, and it is by looking at, and mastering this view, that is the key to why some of us navigate our way with more ease than others.
How to reset your mind from victim to victor.
It is important to be aware of this distinction between being at cause, or being at effect.
It is the rare individual who always lives their life at cause, however far too many of us live a large part of our lives at effect - responding to the whims, desires or emotional states of others.
Being at cause.
Being at cause means that you are decisive in creating what you want in life and take responsibility for what you have achieved or will achieve. You see the world as a place of opportunity, and you move toward achieving what you desire. If things are not unfolding as you would like, you take action and explore other possibilities. Above all, you know you have choice in what you do and how you react to people and events.
Being at cause means you have choices in your life - you can choose what is best for you while ensuring the choice is ecological for those around you, those in your community and your society.
That is, considering the consequences of your actions on others, while not taking responsibility for their emotional well-being.
Being at effect.
If you are at effect you may blame others or circumstances for your bad moods or for what you have not achieved or for your life in general. You may feel powerless or depend on others in order for you to feel good about yourself or about life - "If only they (my partner, my parents, my boss)...understood me and helped me achieve my dreams or did what I wanted or what is best for me, then life would be great."
If you wait and hope for things to be different or for others to provide it for you, then you are at the effect or a victim of circumstances. And really, how much fun is that?
And how much fun do you think it is for others to be around you?
Believing that someone else is responsible for or making them responsible for your happiness or your different moods is very limiting and gives these ‘others’ some mystical power over you, which can cause you a great deal of suffering.
Effect
“My Life is Random, I Can’t Affect or Control What Others Say or Do”
Cause
“I Influence & Take Responsibility for Everything That Happens in my Life”
The Victor!
Is it easy to always live life at cause? No. Although, it is possible to live the vast majority of the time at cause.
The important thing is to be able to quickly identify the times when you are living your life at effect. To get back on track, remember that you always have choices in your life.
"There is no failure, only feedback."
There are no unresourceful people, only unresourceful states.
Despite what has happened to us in the past, at some point we need to accept full responsibility for our future.
Ask yourself this, "Do I live life according to my own agenda and have choices, or do I live my life according to my responsibilities and obligations?”
The distinctions here are: are you the cause of your trajectory or at the effect of something outside of yourself?