How not to lose sight of the reality while enjoying your relationship

Falling in love is so much fun! 

Everyone wants to experience that euphoric state that’s makes one feel like floating on air! 

What can keep you tethered to reality without popping the bubble?

Seeing the bigger picture helps! 

• Consider what kind of a mate you want.

  We subconsciously know exactly what we want, but often don’t take time to let our consciousness in on our plans. So often we end up with someone who falls short of our invisible list of qualifications.

  To avoid that, take time to write down the qualities you desire for a lifelong companion. 

• Take it slow.

  The media has convinced us to become physically intimate before we’ve gotten our new interest’s last name down. 

  What they don’t tell us is that once we’ve slept together, it’s much harder to see the other person objectively. 

  We’re then emotionally invested in our new flame only to discover traits we can’t tolerate. It’s much harder to break off the relationship at that point. And it’s impossible to do it painlessly. 

  Oddly, it’s much easier to get physically naked than it is to bare our souls. So get to know your partner before you get intimate.

• Be intentional.

  Great partnerships stay that way only by working on them. The fact that you are reading this shows that you are already doing this. 

  You’ve demonstrated that you want a better experience than you witnessed from your caretakers growing up. Attacking, criticising and blaming quickly erode feelings of love. 

  Determine to continue learning about relationships and work on being the best version of you that you can be.

  We go to school to learn how to have a great career. It’s just as important to educate yourself on how to have a great relationship.

  You’re already on a path to having this experience of falling in love be one that is lasting, because you are seeking to learn what you can do to avoid mistakes of the past. 

  • So keep your eyes wide open to the kind of mate you want and don’t settle. 

  • Get to know them before you sleep with them. 

  • Be intentional about working on yourself and the relationship every step of the way. 

May following these suggestions keep you flying high while solidly anchored in reality.