Relationship Tips
Ah, falling in love. Such a wonderful feeling. You get butterflies in your stomach when you see their face, when they call or text, even when they say your name. You can’t help but think and talk constantly about them.
Everything feels right in the world, even if it isn’t, because, well you’re in love.
But let’s pump the breaks. Sometimes when this happens, we fall in love quickly and we fall in love hard. Which is wonderful, yeah, but it can also be catastrophic.
Why, you ask?
Well, when you are looking at your love interest with rose-coloured glasses, you can miss the red flags.
When you’ve fallen in love with someone so hard, you can look past certain things that they do that normally may annoy, upset or even offend you just because you want this person to be this perfect image you have created in your mind. And while that is not always the case, it is important to remember that it happens and in order to keep yourself from getting your heart broken or losing yourself, here are some tips to help keep you grounded.
Remember, nobody is perfect. Everyone has flaws.
Pay attention to those flaws and keep an open mind, but also ask yourself, “Can I deal with this long term?”
Is this a deal breaker later down the line?
For example, let’s say you go to your love interests’ home and notice that it is pretty messy. And let’s say you are a neat freak.
You may say, this doesn’t bother me because I don’t live with them. But what you should be doing is asking yourself, can I see myself living with this person in the future?
Usually when we fall in love, we want to spend every waking moment with this person.
And this means ignoring friends and family. Now if things fall apart, who will you need to lean on? Those friends and family right?
So instead of spending all your time with this new love interest, resist the urge. Go out with friends. Visit your family. And take note as to how your love interest reacts.
Do they get mad that you aren’t spending time with them?
Do they accuse you of spending too much time with others?
This is a good way to judge their character and notice any jealousies.
Sometimes when falling in love, we want to do everything this new love interest does.
You’ve never played golf in your life, but suddenly you’re hitting the greens with them. You’re watching their favourite movies and tv shows and you’re eating their favourite foods.
Don’t lose sight of who YOU are.
Don’t lose yourself in the relationship. It is perfectly fine to want to participate in things that your new love likes, but it is a two way street and make sure that they are going to those poetry readings with you, going to your favourite restaurants, etc.
And remember it is OK to say no to something. You don’t have to share EVERYTHING.
