How To Stay Grounded In Who You Are While Falling In Love
Have you ever heard the saying that no one is perfect? That is something we can easily forget when we begin a new relationship.
When we start to fall in love with someone, we may get so excited about being in love that we do not notice what would normally be deal breakers for us.
Many of us look past qualities in our love interest that we wouldn’t normally accept from others in our life.
This is of course not always what happens, some of us still only concentrate on flaws, however, it could occur if we find ourselves overly excited or enthusiastic about being in love.
If you are the type to get swept away and overlook certain negative characteristics in a new love interest, below are some tips to stay grounded in who you are, while falling in love:
Keep in mind that there will be things you don’t like about your new love interest.
Pay attention to what might usually be a deal breaker for you. Ask yourself: “Is this really something I want long-term?” “Is this a non-negotiable for me later down the line?”
For example: Does he/she not want kids and I do? Does he/she smoke and I only want to be with a non -smoker?
Don’t expect your new love to change down the road.
It’s not that people don’t change, it is that people don’t change unless it comes from within themselves. So, don’t go in, ignoring aspects of your new partner thinking the things about him/her that you don’t like now won’t be a recurring thing. Most likely they’ll still be messy, not responsible, easily angered etc.
Keep your own interests and hobbies.
Many people jump into liking the hobbies and interest of their new partner. Try to stay true to what you really like and enjoy even if your partner isn’t into it.
Remember who you are.
Try not to lose yourself in the relationship. Remember it is totally fine to say “no” to something you don’t want to do. You do not have to participate in everything that your partner wants you to.
Make sure you aren’t in a relationship to feel worthy of love.
So many of us jump into relationships because we don’t feel worthy and complete without a significant other. It’s important to make sure you feel complete and worthy of love even when you’re single. Or you might just fall in love with someone who isn’t right for you long-term.
So, make sure you are in love with YOU before you love anyone else.
